I'm a take-the-high-road kind of girl and have tried to be for as long as I can remember. Let me tell you-- It's not always easy. I've nearly bitten my tongue off more times than I can count but when it comes to friends and loved ones, I figure it's best to zip the lips in the heat of the moment regardless of how UNsatisfying it may be.
This is a picture of my niece's horse, Tilly. I think this sassy mare might be on to something.
Next time someone pushes my buttons, instead of "zipping it" on my way up the high road, I'll simply stick my tongue out at them and move on. Maybe it'll leave them wondering what I'm up to. Ha!
What would you do?
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ha. its hard...cause taking the high road we can also at times feel unheard or appreciated....lol...sticking my tongue out...saw someone do that the other day and about cracked up cause it was an adult...
ReplyDeleteIt depends on the circumstance, but I usually try not to respond if someone pushes my buttons. If it's family, we can usually find a way to reconcile. If it's an acquaintance, I sometimes lose a friend. That's no fun. :-(
ReplyDeleteI guess that's a much better approach than sticking fingers in ears, and Loudly saying," La-la-la. I can't hear you!!!" Which is what I've been tempted to do when someone pushes my buttons. LOL!
ReplyDeleteI've gotten better at zipping my lip since I have gotten older....not perfect, but better. I guess I've done more biting my tongue than sticking it out, but sticking it out sometime might be fun.
ReplyDeleteI'm Italian.. I can't hold my tongue... :)
ReplyDeleteI, too, am of the "high road" persuasion.
ReplyDeleteBut sometimes, it just gets hard, doesn't it?
Might have to take up sticking my tongue out. :-)
Pearl
Ha! I love the photo -- and yes, I try, too, to be of the "high road" but it is hard. It'll be a little easier after retirement!
ReplyDeleteFunny you should ask... My personal improvement project lately has been to ZIP IT!! I do, however, make iternal monster faces at them.
ReplyDeleteI smile...and say nothing.
ReplyDeleteWorks like a charm...
Sherry
I have a very hard time lately, keeping my mouth shut. It's a hard thing to do. Living with 3 stepkids right now has been a huge problem for me to hold my tongue. Maybe I just need a salt likc??
ReplyDeleteWould you call that :horse sense"?
ReplyDeletegood advice Joanna, but difficult to take! Better in the long run I think.
ReplyDeleteI, too, have a hard time keeping my mouth shut. I like to think that I've gotten some better about it as I've grown older though, but it's still hard!
ReplyDeleteI'll have to remember to just stick out my tongue next time :)
I love it....
ReplyDeleteI have a bloody tongue for a while ....and a grin to match! Have a great weekend!
My character flaw (one of many, unfortunately) is that when I do manage to take the high road, I want a committee of at least 5 to gallop over and acknowledge how morally superior I've just been.
ReplyDeleteIt's a cute photo. I imagine it is nice to have a horse.
ReplyDeleteIt is one way to take.
I mostly keep my mouth shut (except when it comes to my kids), but I like Tilly's idea. I might try it.
ReplyDeletei've found that i have to just walk away, turn off the tv or computer when i hear/read something that burns my butt these days! that's my high road, sweet pea. life is too damn short when you're 63 to waste time! xoxoxox
ReplyDeleteFortunately, incidents that require taking a "road" seem to be lessening. Maybe I'm getting smarter; can see it coming and manage to avoid it. However, that's not always the case. I called a customer service rep yesterday to ask a question. She misunderstood and got a little sarcastic. I took the "high road" and said, "Maybe I should be quiet and let you ask the questions," albeit, that was probably a little sarcastic, too.
ReplyDeleteShe apologized and said, "No, it's me that's not being clear." After that, we were good.
ps. Good shot Tilly with her tongue out! I'm sure I'm mentioned that I love horses.
ReplyDeleteI'm not very good at keeping my mouth shut or my tongue inside of it.
ReplyDeleteToo bad you don't have an impressive tongue like hers. the better for sticking out. Don't know what I would do. These days too many people carry loaded weapons. Dianne
ReplyDeleteI think zip the lips is a wise policy.
ReplyDeleteThe high road lets you bypass regret street.
(Ha, that was a terrible line, like something you'd hear on a local news channel.)
It depends what the disagreement is about... but that horse has the right idea perhaps?
ReplyDeleteI soooo wish I had a filter but unfortunately I don't. I find it impossible to keep my tongue in ;)
ReplyDeleteI'm generally pretty good at zipping it, except when dealing with family...then I don't seem to have any filters at all. Something I have been working on.
ReplyDeleteThe art of sticking your tongue out takes practice to get just the right effect. Remember that famous Einstein photo of his tongue. Maybe because he was already famous he pull it off so well. You should post a few practice photos.
ReplyDeleteGenerally, refraining from comment is safest. I almost always regret it when I don't!
ReplyDeleteI think Tilly has the right idea. It might just be worth a shot.
ReplyDeleteI have always had a bit of a problem not speaking my mind...and it got worse over my years of working in the field of sexual assault, I'm afraid. I have learned the finesse of blasting someone in a more refined manner - but it's not nearly as satisfying as being up front with my feelings.
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